Valentine’s Day is around the corner. For many people it’s a chance for romancing your spouse, for many others it’s more about staying out of trouble. No matter which group you fall into, I’ve got some proven tips for you.
- Make the coffee
There’s a certain undeniable luxury to having a hot cup of coffee ready and waiting for you when you get up in the morning. Why not spoil your spouse by getting that coffee ready for him or her?If you’re anything like me, you like getting results with little or no effort. That being the case, I’m going to let you in on a little secret. Get yourself a programmable coffee machine. We have this one [affiliate link].
- Look at the sky
Sharing a great sky view can be a powerfully romantic experience. Here are some ideas to get you started.
Watch the sun rise. If you’re both early birds, why not watch the sunrise together? Odds are, there won’t be anyone else around, so it should be nice and peaceful.
Not a morning person? Try catching a sunset instead. Don’t let a few clouds stop you. Cloudy days make for some of the reddest, most beautiful sunsets around.
Take in a starry night. This one is really effective where we live. We’re out in the country, so there’s no city light pollution to contend with.
- Remove the kids
You parents out there will back me up on this: having kids is great. It’s a life-changing experience. A little time away from your kids is sometimes just the thing you need to recharge your batteries.
If you have kids, you likely already have some idea of what you can do with them. If not, here are a few to get you started: take the kids for a walk or to the park, get them doing a scavenger hunt or building a snowman.
Another option is to distract the kids in the house and give your sweetheart a break in the outside world. Maybe they go to a coffee shop or a movie, maybe they go for a walk in the park or build a snowman. It’s none of your business, you’ve got your hands full with the kids.
- Go for a walk
Just go for a walk together. In the woods, on the beach, where you first met. It’s better if it’s private. A stroll through a crowded mall just isn’t the same for romancing your spouse. Try holding hands as you walk, you can thank me later.
- Pick some flowers
Some people put a lot of work into their flower gardens. Normally I wouldn’t advocate picking flowers from someone else’s garden, and in this case I still won’t. If it’s your own garden, and your partner won’t mind you picking flowers from it, then go for it.
You can also pick wildflowers. It’s not about the money or the fancy flowers, it’s about the thought.
- Romance in the rain
Maybe it’s just me, but I like the rain… usually. In any case, there’s something magical about sharing the rain with that special someone. It could be a gentle summer rain (sure… sounds like a commercial, but it’s still nice). Alternatively, a thunderstorm is a heck of a show – especially at night.
I’ll leave it to you to decide whether you want to go out in the rain and get soaked or whether you’d prefer to stay dry under a roof or an umbrella.
- Massage/back rub/foot rub
Whether it’s a shoulder rub, a back run, a foot rub, or some combination of them, giving your spouse a massage is a wonderful way to enhance the intimacy. Then there’s the added benefit of tension relief and muscle relaxation.
- Play with your food.
If you can cook, make something nice for your honey. You could make their favorite meal. If you can’t cook, fake it. Either way, have fun with it. Make heart-shaped cookies or red and pink muffins. It doesn’t have to be complicated. For example, that picture on the left is something I just made. I used instant pancake mix. When the pancake was cooked I cut a hole in it and put it back on the frying pan. After that, I fried the egg in the hole.
This post was written by Simon, my long-suffering spouse of many years and master of romancing his spouse. You can also find him at his corporate training blog, SimonBlairTraining.com.